Your relationships will be some of the most important things you will have in your life. They are a reflection of who you are or aren’t. They can make you better or worse. According to Jim Rohn, “we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.” This is a reminder to choose your friends wisely, to select who you spend time with, and most importantly, who you marry.
“We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn
Communication is key
Developing relationships matter, so choose wisely and take time to nurture them by communicating expectations and boundaries, as well as being open. The latter might take more time depending on your personality, but just know that a good friend and a loving partner should have the patience to sit down and listen without judgment or prejudice. You should be able to communicate your thoughts and feelings because you feel safe around these individuals that truly care about you and love you.
You have options – it’s up to you
These are called healthy relationships. And by definition, these are relationships in which no threats – in any way, shape, or form; no physical, psychological, or mental damage; and no privacy violation or physical restriction – exist at any time during the relationship.
Some of us might not realize we are in unhealthy relationships until we are out of them, which gives us time to reflect. Or until we are in healthy relationships and are able to compare them. But that’s the most difficult part: choosing to leave unhealthy relationships.
Don’t be afraid of standing up for yourself and asking for help from friends, family, or professional experts like psychologists and therapists. Life is precious and no human deserves to be harmed in any way. Be brave and take a step forward.
Richard Chan 