What you see is not what you get

The world is full of facades that might surprise you if you have a closer look at it—anything from buildings, software applications, and books to people, relationships, and families. There is a cover for almost everything when looked at from the outside. I think a bit of skepticism is normal and sane to avoid going … Continue reading What you see is not what you get →

The Family Bond

We have two families – the one we are born into and the one we choose. While we have no decision power or control over the former, we have total decision power and control over the latter. The family we are born into – including parents, siblings, and relatives, is blood-related, and they usually stay … Continue reading The Family Bond →

Relationships change, you adjust

There is always an easy way out of relationships. No doubt divorce rates are at around fifty percent in the United States. It’s too easy to leave when you or your spouse is not the same person compared to when you both first started dating. You will change. Your spouse will also change at some … Continue reading Relationships change, you adjust →

Say what you’ve gotta say

You’ve got to say what, why, how you feel and think. That should be one of the unspoken rules between two people in any type of relationship. Unfortunately, it’s not always the case. That’s why we need to make the effort to open up, communicate clearly, and set boundaries. What you don’t share in a … Continue reading Say what you’ve gotta say →

A good friend

Sometimes that’s all we need: one or two good friends in life. Somebody we can share stories, thoughts, and feelings with no fear of being judged. A person we can be light-hearted, silly, and goofy with; tell serious-non-serious jokes; and at the same time, someone we can bounce ideas and perspective with. A good friend … Continue reading A good friend →

M1: Being comfortable alone

It is been almost a month since I have been back at being single but feels like an eternity. Everything around the house feels emptier, but not my soul. My soul has found tranquility between all the emptiness. It is tremendously difficult when a relationship does not work out how we envisioned it. There were … Continue reading M1: Being comfortable alone →

The shortness of life

Wow. Yesterday was quite the unnecessary rage. And today I am reminded of how short life actually is. There have been more familiar faces that have passed away in the past year than I can ever remember – whether it be because of COVID-19 or age. This is a reminder to be kind, caring, generous, … Continue reading The shortness of life →

Interpersonal problems

It’s been indeed a long weekend. My mind is full and my body wants to take a break despite it being the third week of 2021. I have been dealing with many personal things at the same time that it’s eventually tired me out. Chaos here, chaos there. Most problems are interpersonal. And most of … Continue reading Interpersonal problems →

I became you

Somewhere, some time, and at some point, our paths crossed, and some part of me became part of who you were. This didn't happen by accident. We spent a considerate amount of time together, talking and laughing, sharing stories and jokes, and thinking and planning our futures. Clearly, it was difficult not to absorb some … Continue reading I became you →

Moving on…

I can hear the echo around the house while the music is playing. It’s quiet. It’s peaceful. It’s spacious. I am in the living room typing what’s coming out of my heart. I am here living on my own – no housemates, no roommates – after sharing a home with you during most of our … Continue reading Moving on… →