I remember back in the days when I’d hold back on thoughts and feelings because I didn’t want to hurt people, especially loved ones. I’d try not to argue, fight back, or express how I truly feel. The more I did this, the worse I felt in relationships — I’d feel I left something hanging, I’d feel … Continue reading Say what you mean
They don’t come back
You’ve got to be careful with what you say because every word and sentence that comes out of your mouth will never come back. Don’t over promise when you’re under pressure, you will regret it later when you can’t deliver. And people will not take you seriously or trust you anymore. It takes years of actions to gain trust, … Continue reading They don’t come back
Can you win ’em all?
It’s of novices to think every battle* can be won. It’s immature to even think of this possibility. There are people who think everything is possible though. And who am I to change their mind when I have no control over that? I control myself and have more than enough trying to do so. I … Continue reading Can you win ’em all?
Hey
We’ve got used to writing pieces of thoughts. Here and there. Whatever comes out of our mind first, we type it and hit send. No analyzing, no proofreading, no paraphrasing or summarizing. Just hit send. What a poor habit. We don’t allow our thoughts to be fully formed before sending them away. It’s like the … Continue reading Hey
Compared to what?
We’re always comparing and judging even when we think we aren’t. There isn’t a moment we aren’t comparing people, experiences or situations. There are no judgment-free zones or thoughts even when we think there are. We’re often seeing the grass greener across the street. We compare people with other people when nobody is or will ever be the same, we compare experiences with other experiences when they’re very different from each … Continue reading Compared to what?
Who cares anyway
What do you care what people think? That’s a Richard Feynman’s book. But also today’s reality. You focus way too often and too much on what others think about you, what you’re doing, whether you and your friends are following each other on social media, and what not. The truth is that none of these … Continue reading Who cares anyway
Nadie lo hará
Nadie te querrá como él. Mentira. El que te quiere te querrá así o mejor. A lo mejor no te llenará de sonrisas tan seguidamente, pero te hará sonreir. A lo mejor no te besara tan apasionadamente, pero te besara. A lo mejor no te querrá tan intensamente, pero te querrá. Al final, tú tienes la última … Continue reading Nadie lo hará
My side of the story
So why did that happen? You ask your friend or family about a past event or issue. By which he or she responds, “let me tell you why”… little did you realize that this is only one side of the story and should be, “let me tell you my side of the story” instead. There … Continue reading My side of the story
Short and sweet life
I’ve always thought of my life as a short one. And I’ve lived it as such — doing all the things I feared, all the things people said it’d be crazy or impossible to do, and in short, doing everything I’ve always wanted. I think of my life every day as something that could end up at … Continue reading Short and sweet life
The unknown is you
What makes you who you are today are all the unknown experiences — be it tragic or wonderful. Wait, what are you talking about? Remember all the tough times you went through — when you failed at things that looked simple but weren’t, were bullied by people you considered friends, broke your bones in an accident yet came out … Continue reading The unknown is you
Richard Chan 